I often hear talk about setting yourself up for success—about accomplishing the goals and tasks you have in mind in order to feel like you have been successful. I am all for setting goals and having a plan in place to accomplish them. But sometimes I have to take a step back and remind myself what it is all about.
It’s important for me to keep the main thing in perspective so I don’t…
- Run over those I love in order to check one more thing off of my list.
- Feel less than adequate when my day doesn’t turn out the way I had hoped.
So what is the main thing?
The definition of successful is accomplishing an aim or purpose. There may be many things we are aiming at. There are so many things to do as a mom it can sometimes be downright overwhelming. We may not accomplish every aim that we are shooting for in a day. That is okay! And that doesn’t mean our day was not successful. We just have to keep in mind what the most important thing is.
There is one thing above all others that will make our homes a haven for our children and husbands. Even if the dishes are piled up. Even if the laundry hasn’t been folded and you can’t find any matching socks. Even if you forgot to do something important… again.
Now it happened as they went that He entered a certain village; and a certain woman named Martha welcomed Him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, who also sat at Jesus’ feet and heard His word. But Martha was distracted with much serving, and she approached Him and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me.” And Jesus answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. “But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.” – Luke 10:38-42 NKJV
The main thing, graceful mama, is embracing God’s love for you. Even in the midst of the chaos, he is there. Even in the midst of the overwhelming to-do list, he is there.
When I sat down to initially write this post, I had a different idea in mind. The focus was going to be us (the moms) showing love to our children. And yes, that is important. But as I was writing I realized again that showing love to our children is a byproduct of receiving God’s love for us even in the midst of our shortcomings and our personality flaws.
When we embrace God’s love for us, that love naturally flows out to our children and husband.
If I have lots of plans and they don’t turn out the way I intended, that doesn’t mean my day wasn’t successful. If I embrace God’s love for me and allow Him to invade even the most insignificant of moments, it has been a successful day.
So the next time you feel overwhelmed by all the things on your plate, stop and realize His love is all around you. He is in you. The next time you are tempted to be angry with yourself for messing up again, stop and embrace His love and His grace.
Let our aim be to embrace His love. Let the purpose for which we rise in the morning be to know the transforming power of His love for us. If we keep our eyes on that one thing, we will have had a successful day.