Just Say No to Guilt… and Lean Into Grace

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One day while I was on vacation last summer, I found myself with a few minutes to spare.  I was alone, and the children were occupied. Without the normal household companions that call my name at home (like Laundry and Dishes), I decided to watch a little something on Netflix just for fun.

All of a sudden, I noticed a little guilty feeling rising up in my chest.  It was very subtle.  I began to feel guilty for not doing anything.

Even when I had alone time at home, I had been using it to read or write or get something accomplished.  I have long embraced the importance of having time for myself, and taking a few minutes each day to fill myself up is very important to me.   I know that I can’t be fully there for my children if I don’t take care of myself.  Reading good books fills me up and strengthens my spirit and mind.  Writing is very enjoyable for me and also productive.  But TV? What does that accomplish?  Well, nothing really—It’s just fun.

I realized in that moment that it was okay to let myself do nothing but sit and watch TV.  It was okay to just do it for fun!  I also realized I was still holding onto an unhealthly need to accomplish and perform. I didn’t even realize it during the busyness of my normal life, where I was surrounded by important things to do, but my vacation really refreshed me and helped give me some new perspectives.just say no to guilt pinterest

Right then and there I decided that while I was on vacation, I would say no to guilt. I was on vacation, and it was okay for me to do nothing but sit around and veg.

And then the truth hit me right between the eyes. Shouldn’t I always say no to guilt? Isn’t that the privilege I have as a believer?  Yes! I have the privilege of saying no to guilt everyday, not only when I’m on vacation.

Because in Christ, every day is a day of vacation.  We get to rest in His finished work and in His love for us.

  • We get to rest from trying to please God.  Jesus earned God’s stamp of approval for your life and mine when He died His perfect death on the cross. When God sees you, He is pleased! He sees a beautiful, perfect daughter!
  • We get to rest from figuring out how to do it all on our own. God has good plans for you, and He knows how to accomplish them.  He is faithful, even when you’re not. He is trustworthy! He can be trusted to take you where you need to be. Lean on Him, and He will take care of the rest.
  • We get to rest from wrestling with guilt.  Whatever it is you are feeling guilty about, Christ already covered it.  Embracing His grace not only frees you from guilt, but it also transforms you from the inside out! Guilt is counterproductive, but grace is transformative!
  • We get to rest from being anxious and afraid. Whatever is plaguing your mind, God is big enough to handle it! Trust in Him and give all those cares to Him, for He cares about every detail of your life. He will take care of everything.
  • We get to rest from trying so hard to be the perfect mom/wife/_____ (you fill in the blank).  Just go ahead and let go of that perfection you are striving so hard for.  Rest in His perfection, and let that be enough.

I have realized when I give in to feeling guilty, I am believing a lie.  Guilt says I don’t measure up. Guilt says I’m not doing it right. Guilt says I’m not good enough.

Guilt is a liar.  God speaks the truth.

God says I am made in His perfect image! When He sees me, He sees the perfect, finished work of His Son.  God sees me in Christ, and He says I am enough.  The blood of Christ speaks louder than the false accusations of guilt.

Today, let’s decide together not to give in to feeling guilty anymore. When you begin to feel that familiar, unwelcome companion creep up, rise up and say NO!  Just say no to guilt, and lean into grace.  Rest in God’s love and in what Christ has done for you.


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About the author


Tasha Medellin is a head-over-heels-in-love wife and not-so-perfect mother of three who loves spending time outdoors, curling up with a good book, and simply basking in the riches of God's glorious grace.

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