Having quality alone time with your spouse is a challenge for most couples with children, but it is so important! My husband and I don’t get to go on dates as often as we would like to, but one of our goals for this year is to go on a date once every three months. That may seem like it’s not often enough to you, and truly we would love to go on dates all the time, it’s just not possible at this point in our lives.
About a month ago, we planned a date night. A friend who has a daughter about my daughters’ ages was to come over when Isaac went to sleep for the night and keep the girls entertained. Isaac usually goes to bed around seven, so we thought this was a pretty good plan.
The only problem? Our date night plans were dependent on a toddler’s cooperation. Do any of you moms out there know that toddlers sometimes rebel against even the most well thought out plans?
Oh, yes. Isaac, who usually goes to sleep without a hiccup was determined not to go to sleep that night. I couldn’t just leave my friend with all three girls and a fussy toddler who was going to really get sleepy any minute (and who was going to freak out if Mama left him).
So we decided to bring Isaac with us for a while. We thought we could just ride around town drinking our Starbucks coffee, and let Isaac fall asleep in the car seat. Then we would just bring him in, lay him down in his bed, and go back out! Brilliant! Again, the only problem was that our plans depended on Isaac’s cooperation.
We rode around sippin’ on our Pikes, enjoying each other’s company, and sure enough Isaac fell asleep. When I thought he was surely in a deep sleep, we drove back to the house. Lo and behold, we pulled in the driveway and I heard from the backseat, “Mama.” Our little buddy was now again awake.
It was pretty disheartening, especially for the hubs. It’s so challenging to get alone time, and we tried really hard. At this point in the night it was getting pretty late, so we decided to give it up. We brought Isaac inside and finally got him in bed, as well as the girls, and we just watched a RedBox movie together.
We did finally manage a successful date night while we were on vacation thanks to my wonderful in-laws! Even though it’s challenging, we are committed to trying to get alone time however we can. For some great date night ideas, check out my Date Night Pinterest Board!
Having a special song is a simple way to kindle the flames of love in your marriage. Just this week we got to go eat some barbecue together at Jim’n Nicks in Birmingham (yum), and when this sweet song came on the radio we decided that it would be ours. 🙂 It’s called “Come to Me” by the Goo Goo Dolls. I hope you enjoy listening to it and it makes you think of your sweetie.
Do you and your sweetie have a special song? I’d love to know what it is!
And by all means, I don’t want to leave anyone out. If you don’t have a sweetie at this point in your life, you can trust that God has your best interest at heart and He will take care of you! Know that you are His special one–a diamond, a treasure to Him. Even now, and especially when I was single, I clung to this verse from Isaiah 54:5. “For your Creator will be your husband; the LORD of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.”